I was talking with a lady about the Melancholic temperament. When she realized that this was one of her temperaments, suddenly many things made sense. It was a liberating moment. 'There are thousands of people out there who need to know this', she said. I agree and this is one of the reasons for this website. We are rebuilding this site but you will find information on the temperaments under 'specific issues'.

Our purpose is to provide you with resources to help you understand yourself better, your relationships, and the people around you. There is a way of looking at life that can give us insights into many of life's struggles - and we want to share that perspective with you. 

That difficult situation that you are facing might seem impossible but our aim is to give you information to show you the way through. Do keep coming back to the site - and bear with us while we rebuild its contents. 

I have a blog in which I simply write things that occur to me in various situations that could be of help to other people. If you would like to access it, go to:

John's blog

You can add your own comments and thoughts to this blog.

If you need help in posting your comments click the link below.

How to post comments on John's blog

We have moved the 'stories' page and put it under 'relationships.' Do look it up and if you think you have a story to share that will help others, we would love to hear from you.

This site is about helping people so we are interested in your questions and comments. The blog below gives you the opportunity to share your own insights and to respond to the material you find on this site. Please feel free to take part. 

Opening and viewing pdf files

Reflections

 Introduction pdf

 Listening to Advice.pdf

 Dartmouth.pdf

 A Second Chance.pdf

Your response to 'Reflections'

You will find this response interesting to Merle's 'A Second Chance'. It is called 'Perspectives' and demonstrates that it is how we look at things that matters. Click the picture below to access it.

For another response click this link:

Trip to Blackburn.pdf

Why Study the Bible?

Having difficulty getting started in meaningful Bible study? Where do you start? This week's talk is about the 'why' and 'how' of Bible study. We have set ourselves a challenge to learn parts of God's Word - and invite you to join in!

Click the link below to access the talk.

I read recently of the cloud that was over the tabernacle that the Israelites set up in the wilderness.  Overnight the cloud looked like fire. It represented the presence of God. When God wanted his people to move on – the cloud moved on. When they were to stay – the cloud stayed.

The writer seems to stress that it didn’t matter how short a time the cloud stayed – in some cases only overnight – or how long it stayed – perhaps as long as a year – the Israelites obeyed God and only moved when the cloud did. We are to learn that same dependency on God because that ability to respond to the impulses of the Spirit of God is at the heart of our relationship with him. It cannot be learned from a book – it is a walk with God. We all want a set of instructions – a formula to make life work. Learning to listen, to respond, to love and to give ourselves away is something else altogether. It takes the whole of who we are – and it enriches the whole of who we are.

What an amazing thing to know that God wants our company! He likes us and wants to be with us. We matter to him. That should be encouragement enough for us to ‘Keep in step with the Spirit.’

How many times have we said that? Sometimes because we want to duck responsibility - but for many people it is far more damaging than that. A reader has sent in this helpful personal experience. Click the wording above to read it.

We have just completed another successful Step 1 course at Cratfield. Every weekend is different and it is lovely to see lives being influenced for good and changes being made. There are a few places left on our course in March so, if you want a weekend that will take you forward in your understanding of yourself then don't miss this opportunity to book in. The dates are 5th - 7th March 2010.

We are also presenting the Step 2 material in Bristol on the 12th and 13th March as well as in Suffolk on the 5th to 7th November.

If you are interested in attending any of these courses, or in arranging one in your area, please click the picture of School Farm below and write in for further information via the contact page.

ME- CFS

If you don't personally suffer from ME (CFS) then you probably know someone who does. What is the root cause? Is there another way of coming at this that could shed light on it? I think there is and have written an article that you could find helpful. If you want printed copies for yourself or someone you know, write in via the contact page.