Recently it seemed to me very important to find a rapport with my soon to be, new relative. The young lady in question would soon be marrying my nephew and I was about to stay with her for a couple of days. However I was dismayed to find that I really didn't 'get' her. Where was she coming from? Why did she respond in the way she did? Why did I feel unsure of myself with her?

The following morning I began to realise that she resembled someone I already knew, she was responding in a similar way, and the more I experienced of her, the more I could see she had similar temperament traits to my friend - a double introvert in fact. That would explain why I, with both extrovert and introvert temperaments, and in the habit of using my extrovert to initially 'get along,' found it so difficult to reach her.

With a knowledge of the temperaments, I could begin to understand her responses, and as I began to understand, I could feel an empathy for her; I could relax and enjoy the honesty and directness her type of personality offers a relationship. I'm sure too, she was aware that her new auntie was enjoying getting to know her!